Have you ever thought how bad it could be if your lovely kid is having a friendship with the wrong kind of person?
A little kid is not able to make the right choice for whom to have a friendship with, at least for the first three or four friends he’s having, until he becomes able to know the basics of how to choose his friends in general & his best friend in particular.
The first rule that comes here: is that you have to be his first choice (you have to be his first friend):
What I mean here is that you have to get close to him talk to him listen to him… so he tells you every little thing that happens to him with everybody around him. Then you’ll be able to know what happens to him even when you are not around.
For example : ask him when he gets back from school what did you do today? (but watch out as you have to be very friendly when asking or else he will think you doubt something happened so he won’t say a word & you won’t be able to know a single thing, so ask him how was your day today?) what did you do with your friends?, did you have fun at school today?… this way he won’t think that it’s kind of accusation on the contrary he will think of you as a great loving & caring mom/dad.
Tell him stories about you
Keep telling him stories about you when you were young & how bad were some kids & how you were avoiding them cause they were always trouble makers & they always involved everybody around them in those troubles. & tell him that you once trusted someone(and we all did) & you had him/her as a friend but when you got close you regretted on having such a friend cause you realized that this friend was the wrong person. & after that you got back to those good friends whom really cared about you & never let you down or never involved you into troubles.
Share him the sweet moments with his friends
Ask him to invite his best friend’s at home bring them little gifts, cakes, ice cream, their favorite candies,& prepare a nice day at home or outdoor, play with them let them all have fun then stay there a bit away from them & keep watching over them all & over their behaviors you won’t be able to watch over his/her friends manners & behaviors only, but you’ll find out that your own kid needs a lot of guidance in so many things that you never knew anything about & you were never gonna be able to know unless you’ve put him there free with his friends.
Make friends with your kids (good) best friend’s mom/dad
Now and after you finally found the right friend for your kid, stick to him/her not only stick to them but also invite his/her family & make friends with, as your kid will be able to stay with his/her friend’s for longer hours away from school so he/she will start feeling that this friend is becoming very close & becoming much more than a friend he/she’s becoming more like one of the family.
Hope this really helps, hope your kids stay safe and blessed forever.
